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What Hospice Does Not Tell You

by Derrick
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Hospice care comes in when a patient has a terminal diagnosis and is expected to live less than six months. The hospice team will help manage end of life care and comfort. This is undoubtedly a difficult period for everyone involved. Questions and concerns abound.

There are many unknowns with hospice, and end of life care in general.

If you or your loved one is receiving hospice care, you might be wondering what hospice does not tell you. Do the nurses know something they’re not saying? Are there questions they can’t answer?

During my time working in long-term care in nursing facilities and assisted living facilities, I have seen hospice come in to the facility to provide care many times. I also attended numerous hospice trainings during that time. Despite everyone’s wishes when receiving hospice care, there is often a need to accept the unknowns.

Before we get into what hospice medical providers can tell you and what they cannot, it’s important to first understand exactly what hospice is.

What Hospice Is

Hospice is specialized, end of life care from an interdisciplinary team that focuses on managing symptoms and maintaining quality of life right until the individual’s death. That team is comprised of nurses, social workers, volunteers, etc. Care is most often delivered where the person resides, whether that is at home or in a long-term care residence. Comfort is the goal, so the team comes to the person where they live, allowing the individual to stay in a familiar setting. The care is available 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.

The care team uses a collaborative process to focus on the patient’s physical, psychological, and spiritual needs. Hospice care is “person centered,” meaning they develop a care plan that is unique to the individual (and their family) receiving care. So, for example, if the individual receiving care is a devout Catholic, their pastor may be invited in as part of the coordinated care.

Hospice is developed from the philosophy of palliative care. These services improve the quality of life by treating the complete spectrum of symptoms and offering psychological, emotional, and spiritual support throughout the course of the illness rather than treating the condition.

Hospice focuses only on the patient’s comfort rather than offering endless procedures and therapies. The palliative care aspect of therapy may provide a variety of painkillers without directly addressing the underlying cause of the terminal illness.

For instance, if a patient had cancer, they would only be given strong painkillers, not radiation or chemotherapy. In general, patients can avoid making frequent trips to hospital emergency departments.

Hospice care is also provided to the family, natural caregivers, and friends involved in the process. They are connected with support groups and offered bereavement care. Bereavement care is seen as a crucial component of hospice, so it is offered for up to 13 months after the individual has passed. In many ways, hospice care is not just support for the dying person, but for everyone involved.

How Hospice Services Help

Seasoned hospice clinicians bring a unique skill set and in-depth understanding of the dying process to the table. Team members use a holistic, non-medical approach to patient and family communication.

They are concerned with quality-of-life issues that medical professionals may ignore or are ill-equipped to handle. They aid in resolving outstanding medical or personal issues and are knowledgeable of what to expect when the end of life draws near. They are adept at addressing the concomitant concerns and uncertainties that death instills in all of us as well as knowing how to begin the painful dialogues delicately.

In the best-case scenario, hospice medical staff work with families to help patients die peacefully. They demonstrate that it is possible to exit this world without experiencing any pain or suffering and how much solace consciousness may provide to the sufferer and their loved ones. These encouraging outcomes motivate hospice professionals worldwide to complete their vital service.

Who Qualifies for Hospice

A person can qualify for hospice if they have a terminal diagnosis and a doctor’s order indicating they have six or fewer months to live. The order is an indication that medical care is moving from trying to “cure” the patient to accepting their diagnosis is fatal and managing the pain and comfort until the person has passed.

sick senior man in hospice

According to Statista, in 2019, roughly 62% of hospice patients were 85 years or older, 52% were between 75 and 84, 41% were 65 to 74, and 29% were under 65.

Medicare Coverage for Hospice

Medicare and most private health insurers cover hospice care. Given the typical patients’ age, Medicare coverage is the biggest reimbursement source for hospice providers. To have Medicare cover hospice the following conditions must be met:

  1. The doctor certifies that the person is terminally ill and has a life expectancy of 6 months or less).
  2. The patient accepts that there will no coverage for curative treatments.
  3. The patient signs a statement that they are choosing hospice care instead of curative care.

Most private insurers align with Medicare’s requirements for hospice coverage, but check with your private insurance company if this applies to you.

Medicare covers all hospice costs. However, if you live in a care facility are admitted to a hospital, those costs will be separate from hospice. You may still have a modest copay for prescriptions.

What Hospice Does Not Tell You

Hospice providers are very honest and open, but hospice cannot tell you when the patient will die. This is not because they don’t want to, it’s because they can’t always determine it. Clearly there are cases where death is imminent, when all of the signs of imminent death are present, and hospice will tell you if that’s the case so that family can gather around and pay final respects and the individual, if desired, can die surrounded by loved ones.

The objective of your hospice team is to assist you in becoming ready for a few situations that might arise just before your loved one passes away. When a patient is terminally sick, death is never predictable.

However, a mix of symptoms and signals lets them know when the moment is near. These warning indicators won’t manifest at once, and some might never do. The body uses all of the symptoms as a means of getting ready for the end of life.

The hospice staff do not impose any unnecessary interventions that the individual (or family) does not wish, nor do they decide how you should use their services. It is not a pervasive advantage.

hospice does not tell you when you will die

Hospice care keeps patients comfortable by controlling their pain and other symptoms, such as shortness of breath or agitation. Hospice does not hasten death or aid in patients’ passing. In reality, when patients decide to undergo hospice care, doctors occasionally discover that they survive longer than anticipated. Making sure the patient is free of the signs of their terminal disease is the goal of hospice care.

Hospice is a benefit, just like other health insurance benefits, but sadly, not everyone is aware of this, and many providers do not make referrals to hospice when they should. This is unfortunate as it can rob the dying individual of a more peaceful, comfortable departure. Of course, fear and denial of death is real, and some people see hospice as giving up hope, and refuse services on those grounds.

Anybody who meets the criteria can use the hospice benefit, not just those with premium insurance policies. Even those without insurance are eligible for hospice care from any organization that is not-for-profit or financed by the government, including Medicare, Medicaid, and practically every HMO.

How Long Does the Average Hospice Patient Live?

The patient’s diagnosis will determine the length of time they require hospice care. Most hospice patients wait to sign up until they are nearly terminal since they don’t think they will live more than six months. However, six months is the longest period of eligibility.

Many patients, nevertheless, survive through this point, at which time they could be qualified for extra hospice care or might be allowed to leave the hospital. The average length of time spent in hospice is now 78 days, up from 74 days in 2018, per a report by Trella Health. This is considered excellent news for patients because many individuals only spend a short time in hospice.

Only 12% to 15% of patients may reasonably expect to survive for more than six months, and nearly half pass away within three weeks. While individuals assigned to hospice care right away after a lengthy hospital stay had a death rate of ~95% during the first six months of their care process, patients under the age of 65 had a higher chance of living longer.

Men are more likely than women to pass away within six months, with an 88.4% vs. an 85.1% mortality rate. The cause of a patient’s admission to hospice is also important; patients with dementia or a stroke had a lower overall death rate in hospice than those with other illnesses.

Hospice and Caregivers

Family members (and others) are often abruptly thrown into the position of caretaker when someone is dying, frequently without any planning or awareness of what to anticipate. Hospice staff members assist the caregiver by educating them and responding to their inquiries. They can help comfort a widower, widow, or any loved one dealing with the grief.

Additionally, caregivers receive helpful suggestions, counsel, and methods to lessen the heavy load of providing care. Many caregivers claim that merely knowing they were never alone and could call hospice at any moment with a question, concern, or aid significantly reduced their anxiety.

Further Reading

Life is difficult. Death is even more so. If you need additional resources, consider a support group. The following books may also offer some comfort.

The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life
  • Butler, Katy (Author)
  • English (Publication Language)

Do you have experience with hospice? What, if anything, did hospice not tell you? How was your experience? Please share in the comments section.


Jade Hachem November 4, 2022 - 9:06 am

If you volunteer to take care of a dying family member in their home, GET READY. YOU are reaponsible for everything. Their food, safety, toileting, med administration.
No one is going to pay you for your time, if you break your back doing it, etc. If you are not the DIRECT BENEFICIARY in the will, you will get NOTHING for your time and hard work. If a family member promises you will once the estate is settled—they are lying to you.
I am a registered nurse and left my ICU job to care for my grandmother in her home. She was 102, alcoholic, demented. Broke my back had to have surgery after she died. She literally beat me up until she died—I had bruises all over me from her. She died swinging and spitting and cursing at me. I got NOTHING but CDIFF, spinal fusions and lost time from work from taking care of her. No one in my family would help ME or reimburse ME for a CENT. She left everything to the MEN in the family. Now I am disabled trying to work as much as I can. Do not care for your family on hospice unless you get it in writing up front you will be paid. I tried to get a lawyer after the fact and no one would take my case.

Derrick November 4, 2022 - 9:44 am

That’s very difficult, and sadly, not that uncommon.

Eleonora October 27, 2022 - 4:46 am

am a medical assistants and working 20 years in home care i had only bad experience with Hospice care and staff .
mostly they come and take over the dieing whole house and boss around everyone in the home .
sadly families i have worked either u left or we had to cancel hospice to come because they just not very professional .
i have many stories w nurses who are in the wrong place to work they sued never be allowed to work w people.

keith grayson October 18, 2022 - 3:39 am

Family caregivers have 0 rights, less than an illegal worker! In fact anything a family caregiver is given / earns / inherits is presumed the result of undue influence and it is incumbent upon you to be able to demonstrate it was not. I was a caregiver 8 yrs, 3 were 24-7. We had a $2.3 million cash trust irrevocable, she revoked it secretly while using me 24-7 365 for another year, I discovered after she died leading me off a financial cliff and probate battle with sister who despised them her entire life ignored them. The government awarded $144,000 for every year an illegal worker provided 16 hour days 6 days a week , me they said sorry don’t get involved in family.

Natasha Able October 6, 2022 - 1:18 am

My fiance was 33 when he was admitted I to hospice. He battled years of hardcore intravenous drug addiction that finally took his life. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do was to watch the man I love and was supposed to spend my life with dye slowly. He never regained consciousness so it was hard not knowing if he was able to hear me when I spoke to him, the Hospice staff were a huge help because I had so many questions like when will I know when the time is near. They were very open and honest with me and gave me the general what to look for signs which helped a lot. but no matter how much help they were his death was still sudden and very hard to accept. it’s been 3 years and it hasn’t gotten any easier just manageable

Derrick October 6, 2022 - 7:23 am

Thank you for sharing your story. So sorry for your loss.

Timothy C September 27, 2022 - 2:10 am

It was a very difficult adjustment for my late husband to begin hospice. After the initial meeting with hospice I was overwhelmed by all the information I was given and supplies that began arriving at our apartment. It was so difficult to see cases of diapers and absorbent pads being delivered. These things were a tangible indication of what was to come. And it was terrifying, knowing what that at some point my husband would need diapers. A hospital bed was brought in, which I had fought but finally agreed to. The hospice workers were amazing. Truly, they were angels. But switching my mindset from healing to comfort was a difficult one. Phrases such as, “we shouldn’t do this or that because it would prolong his life” we’re very difficult to accept. All that said, I’m very glad that we did hospice and wish we had started it earlier. If it’s in your home, be prepared for having to do additional tasks—administering more medications, adjusting the patient’s position regularly, changing diapers, washing the patient, etc. The last few weeks of my husband’s life were very stressful and exhausting for me— but pain free and peaceful for my husband, which was the goal and the most important thing during that time.

Derrick September 27, 2022 - 9:05 am

Thank you for sharing your story.


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